How to Develop Emotional Mastery & Resilience: The NAC Approach

You are just one thought away from Joy and peace of mind

The tools I provide in our sessions are there to help you develop mastery over your emotions which builds your emotional resilience and then this builds your confidence. Your confidence comes from your ability (using the conscious work tools) to handle uncomfortable feelings. As a result, your life has more flow and receptivity as you confidently know that you can manage these uncomfortable feelings in seconds to minutes. And the combination of flow, receptivity, and confidence feels good.

I offer Belief change work also referred to as conscious work or energy psychology.

Conscious Work is a practice that aligns your mind with your heart to create heart and brain coherence. It is used to digest and integrate trauma, navigate times of transition, and rediscover purpose.

The focus is to take your body out of a state of alarm (sympathetic mode) because when we are in fight or flight mode our energy is mobilized for survival and our resources are not available for creativity, healing and reproduction. The habitual state of alarm over time leads to chronic inflammation which can cause accelerated biological aging and premature degenerative diseases. When you are able to elicit the relaxation response daily and engage the parasympathetic nervous system (the rest & digest and breed & feed system) then it frees up your resources for healing, creativity and reproduction. I offer belief change tools in my energy psychology sessions.

“There are times in our lives when we have to realize our past is precisely what it is, and we cannot change it. But we can change the story we tell ourselves about it, and by doing that, we can change the future.” — Eleanor Brown

Change your limiting beliefs.

Many of us sabotage our desires because we run subconscious programs (often inherited from childhood) that block us from experiencing joy and achieving our goals of health, loving relationships, abundance, and happiness.

You can choose to rewire your brain and remove old programs that no longer serve you and replace them with new programs and beliefs that serve your best interest.

I offer belief change sessions via Telehealth or in a combination with acupuncture and low-level laser therapy (LLLT/photobiomodulation) during my Acubalance sessions.

What it is not:

It is not about bypassing, stuffing down, or denying negative thoughts and feelings and simply replacing them with positive thinking. This approach of only positive thinking is superficial and just covers up negative thoughts, however, the negative feelings are still there smoldering in the background underneath and eventually they resurface and are often stronger and more resilient.

It is not about indulging, wallowing, or dramatizing your negative feelings either. 

It is not talk therapy.

What it is about:

It is inner work.

It is solution-focused work.

“Conscious work helps us regulate our emotions and increases our empathy and compassion for our selves and for others.”

The belief change sessions are about you being sensitive to your feelings and being present with your feelings. When you are present and resourced, you can then consciously choose to change and transform these self-limiting beliefs and feelings into feelings and programs that serve you in your daily life.

I use an approach I call NOTICE*ACCEPT*CHOOSE AGAIN (NAC) that consists of present-moment tools to shift you from your habitual reactionary responses into intentional, present awareness where you get to consciously choose how you feel and act. It is not about suppressing or ignoring stress and negative feelings. It’s about being aware in the present moment and therefore fully resourced which allows you to change your perception and relationship to stress. When you are present, fully resourced, you are then able to choose to consciously respond instead of unconsciously react and in the process, you undo outdated subconscious programs and replace them with new beliefs and programs that better serve you. 

Some of the tools included in the NAC approach can help lower cortisol levels, reduce activity in your amygdala, make changes in your hippocampus and change some gene expression. This helps you be less prone to an old habitual negative reaction to stressors and to choose not to take it personally and instead choose how you feel. This conscious work is beneficial only when experienced through practice. The value Is not in the knowledge but rather in the application. The longer you do it the easier it becomes and the easier it becomes the longer you do it. And the more we do it, the greater the benefit.

How your beliefs create your reality and how you can use your thoughts to create new habits (beliefs) and thus your new reality.

Your beliefs become your thoughts

Your thoughts become your words

Your words become your actions

Your actions become your habits

Your habits become your values

Your values become your destiny.

― Gandhi

The NAC Approach:

N: NOTICE the negative feelings (e.g. resistance, stress, Qi stagnation). Don’t take it personally.

A: ACCEPT what is (a form of surrender)

C: CHOOSE again/differently 

When you do the above, you will be resourced and awake. 

N-A-C steps:


Stop! Choose not to take what is happening personally. Every single thing that happens in life is neutral, and then we give it meaning.

All humans have free will, which means you can choose not to react to something that happens and not to amplify any negative emotions you are experiencing. You can instead decide to become fully present, and then consciously choose how you want to respond (feel).


When we argue with reality, we suffer. But you don’t want to deny reality either. Instead, you can choose to accept things as they are in the current moment.

This doesn’t mean that you like the way things are or that you want it to be this way. It means that you simply stop fighting against reality. You’re saying “this is the way things are at this moment” instead of resisting them. This practice keeps you well-resourced so you can respond to situations consciously using your whole brain, instead of being reactive and hijacked by your reptilian brain.

I Share Tools in My Conscious Work Sessions for Accepting the Present Moment


If you want to be healthy, then practice feeling whole and complete.

If you want to be wealthy, then practice feeling abundant.

If you want to feel happy, then practice joy and gratitude,

If you want to experience loving relationships, then practice feeling love, compassion, and empathy.

I Share Tools in My Conscious Work Sessions for Choosing Again.